One evening I saw farzeen talking herself and I asked farzeen, Whom she was talking to farzeen and then farzeen introduced me her friends lampa and peenti.I'm very worried about her.
I decided to discus this problem with my mother in law.She listen me carefully she was so scared and she told me farzeen imaginary friends are not a imaginary friends.They are all ghosts.She said, children see ghosts and talking or playing with ghosts.She said, my daughter was hunted and she talked to many ghosts and spirits.Her finally opinion was that I must be consulted a holy saint.
But I am not convinced her thoughts and I totally disagree her opinion. I'm consulted child's psychologist and asked about my daughter's imaginary friends.According to psychologist it is normal, and quite conman for children to invent imaginary friend.He said, your daughter is usually creative and imaginative child but having an imaginary friends does not mean that your child is lonely.Imaginary friend can be helping your child in different ways.They allow the child to play creative games and try out different ways of doing things.These friendships have a lot of positive effects on a child and most kids sooner or later, come to realize their make believe buddies are not of this world.So be patient and do not make negative comment .These can make your daughter feel bad about herself.
I am satisfied, and follow doctor suggestions.I realize that an imaginary friend is not the problem.In facts, parents can even use the imaginary friends as a window into what their children are thinking and feelings.So finally I feel relax and today farzeen's friends is my friends too,I enjoy it.
I like your style of writing, it's intering. I' m lost in my childhood memories. i had imaginary friends in my childhood, and i think everyone has imaginary friends in their childhood.
ReplyDeleteEveryone has his/her own fantasy land where he/she indulges whenever he/she's feeling lonely.
ReplyDeleteYour child's imaginary friend making is pretty normal. Lampa and peenti are her ideal friends which she created because her other friends don't have those characteristics which she finds in lampa.
If you let your daughter keep those friends, it's ok. Yet if you want to help her more, you can be either Lampa aur Peenti. You should ask Farzeen how's lampa and what qualities lampa has. Then you can act and play the part of lampa so that Farzeen gets Lampa in a physical form. In this way her human interaction will increase and it's quite possible that she'll give you more time than her imaginary friends.
This imaginary friend making thing happens when a child doesn't have many friends or her parents can't give her so much time. So the child starts spending her time in making imaginations and dreaming.
Just give Farzeen your maximum time you can n everything will be fine :)
farzeen looking very cute :)
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